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I loved my wife deeply, she decided she no longer loved me and she wasn't "happy". I didn't ask to be in my 40s and single, but reality being what it is I live with it. I might have a steady girlfriend if the occasion arises, but she'd have to be pretty damn spectacular for me to make that leap.
I have had all my children, I am financially secure and have a plan for myself that is better done without a typical American woman's bullshit to goof it up.
After I told him a little about her, he asked me a very pointed question: "Marry her? The implication in both examples is that everyone ought to have a string of relationships before settling down. With Hollywood as our vehicle, we Americans have cultivated the expectation of "dating for dating's sake." We seem to believe there is some benefit to attaching oneself emotionally to another person only to tear away again after a year or so, and then repeating the process until eventually becoming jaded, old and single.
" If I remember correctly, he actually laughed slightly as he asked the question. The truth was that I just thought she was cute, and she liked me back, so we started dating.
To break the vow of "til' death do us part" over an emotional state that may or may not be another person's fault, is shallow and shows a lack of emotional maturity. Don't give me that crap about how happy you are with yourself, you're not and we both know it.
It tells me that woman is too self absorbed to be a reliable partner in the future. If you and I had fallen in love twenty years ago, gotten married and had a family and you had put on the weight, I would still be with you, but we didn't and so I see no need to accommodate your lack of character and discipline. I won't seriously consider dating a woman who has a lot of hangups about sex.
Even when a man does get emotionally invested, it usually occurs more slowly and to a lesser degree. If the countless e-mails I get from readers, or my female friends' stories and my own experience are any indication, you know what I am talking about. You gradually throw away the innocence that allows for deep emotional attachment to a single partner, in exchange for a series of brief, shallower attachments that cause you to raise your defenses against something permanent.I think everyone ought to come up with what works for them, keeping the reality of their particular situation in mind. I never seriously date a woman who terminated her last relationship because she wasn't "happy".Happiness is an emotional response to external stimuli. If you are walking around looking like you have a beer keg stuffed in your pants, you don't give a shit about yourself, so I really don't expect you to give a shit about me in the long run.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men. But the ridiculousness of my situation was embarrassingly obvious in the very instant he asked the question.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset. I knew that - in light of my certainty - my relationship with her was pointless.